"Divorce won't hurt the children if you do it right. Not surprisingly, the proponents of this theory are parents who have divorced. I have yet to meet or hear of a child of divorce who has bought into it - we know better. There is not a "right way" to do divorce so that no one gets hurt. It may be a nice idea, but the reality simply does not work that way. Our actions have consequences, and one of the consequences of divorce is the battered hearts of children whose homes are broken when marriage vows are abandoned."
"Jeff found himself in a conversation with a recently divorced coworker.
He asked her, "How are your kids doing?"
"Oh, they're doing great," she assured him. "I sat down with each one of them, talked to them about the divorce and asked them how they were feeling. They are all great kids and handling it really well."
"Baloney," Jeff said. "Your kids are lying to you. They're just telling you what you want to hear."
Jeff's blunt reply shocked, even angered, his co-worker. But later she sought him out and thanked him. After their last conversation, she confronted her children again and found that Jeff was right."
"Part of our struggle with trust stems from the broken trust with our parents. The people who were supposed to model and teach us concepts like trustworthiness, honesty and faithfulness are instead the people who have let us down the most, lied to us most consistently and failed to be there when we most needed them. While their actions were often unintentional, we had front-row seats to observe their failures, and it left many of us with doubts about who can be trusted."
